Respect your Elders
How many times have we all been told "respect your elders"..?? Today I was thinking about this. And I wondered..why? Why should we respect our elders? Just because they're older?I asked Chinmayi...and she told me that we 'respect' our elders because age signifies experience and we respect the experience they have, and the lessons they have learned just by being a part of this world longer than we have.
I don't know. Respect can not be felt on command and I don't believe in giving false respect. Everyone deserves a certain amount of respect, but beyond that, I don't know if people should be respected just because of their age. Respect is earned more by using your experiences and knowledge in the right way than just having experience and knowledge and not putting it to any good use. Elderly people don't have any more right to respect than anyone else. They should deserve the respect we give them.
blabbered by Aditi @ 7:26 PM
22 Comments:
ummmm i like to respect ppl for the fact that they can take their own stand. Know what they believe in and dnt fear standing up to it.
Elders, i think, do deserve respect because the gray hair din't jst turn up yesterday... there's a difference between been expected to listen to them jst because of their age and experience and respecting them for the way they led their lives..
pt is ... pt is.. im older than u and im hoping u respect me... hehehe :D
nice point..but it does has a load of controversy i mean why should i listen to some one older than me just because they're older than me...i gave my bro a nice thumping :D bcuz he said do this do that lk i was a slave ..i mean no doubt i got hit back but it was worth it! n then the jury came in...THE MOTHERRRR.. and i lost the case ..why? because hes older you have to listen..yea sure...NOTTTTT..
btw if u respect them on the way they lived that also cannot really be used in many cases..as you saw in the BTK murders...the killer was a highly respected, church going, charity helping, and helping society and a chill dude in general..but then turns out that HE was the bTk Killer.well im just pointing out rare cases...but i believe not only in the way they live their lives(Lifestyle?)but to the extent of how they can manage themselves and their personality..
yeah see my hindi teacher also is an old hag...shes like the muslims r invaders..theyre this there that..u shuldnt become lk those foriegners
shes all xepericened in math, sci and hindi
but i mean how narrow minded is that ? arnt we suppsd 2 b a secular country?
daii dhruvsy the "shiat" is jus used for the fun of it
just to add that extra "touch" to it
if u noe what i mean
well ur teacher might be a hag. let him be.... but u have to act big and all by letting him have his own ideas even if they dnt agree with u .....
:D
No dhruva...your tuition teacher may believe that India is a hindu country etc etc but if you do respect HIM, you will respect his opinion. It does not mean that you have to aggree with his opinion but you will still respect him for it...
I told you. I DON'T respect him overall, as a person. So why should I respect his opinion. I think it's comeplete bullshite. I don't give a crap about respect to any elder who has screwed up, fixated opinions. Anti-secular elders like my old teacher need to be given mental treatment, and here we are talking about respect.
no i don agree about the mental treatment ...its like a deaf person who dosn't admit theyre deafness...
yayyy dhruva is the new nehru...the person who contradicts every 3 words of what he says...
sheesh his books are so screwd up...
PK, I doubted from the very start if any of YOU would understand (with the exception of maybe kaushik). All of you always do what you've been told to do. And then you justify it to. That's what this entire elders thing is about too. Only after you understand what I'm saying, yo can pass judgement saying I'm contracting myself.
And Ninju, you're own tripping as usual so I have no response to your comment
I don't know what you've been hearing that makes you think i listen to everything my parents,elders, have to say about everything i should do. I love doing things my way and saying "i told you so." But i also know there are places where i should stop and consider what they have to say and then make up my mind.
Yes, i do give them a fair hearing. And im nt going to appologise for that. Yes, i'm more of a sensible kind of person when it comes to taking risks n all... i'm nt too proud of that attribute. If i were to be as stubborn minded as you i wouldn't be reading and agreeing to what you had to say about things even if i dint like them.
Respect. It's hard to earn and easy to lose. With elders, more often than not, its a said thing. U dnt have to necessarily respect every decision they've taken or how they've lived their life or how they think. THat doesn't even have anything to do age.
Fine, you don't like your teacher's veiws. Fine your disgusted with them. And you'd rather have him think the way you do. But that is what makes u lose respect in the eyes of others. You can't expect everyone to think the way you do and not respect them just because they don't.
Your just being as stubborn minded as that teacher of yours for nt accepting what others think. Though i like you more than that teacher. he sounds like a pain with an old mind who refuses to let change of thought cause an upheavel in his world. I wouldn't go as far as mental treatment, 'cuz i don't even knw him...But, that's Ok. we live in a democracy afterall.
Don't mix up accepting with respect. There's a difference.
p.s.: don't keep saying i, or anyone else, can't and won't understand what your trying to say when your nt going to even try and make us understand.
oh ok, sorry maamiji
"You can't expect everyone to think the way you do and not respect them just because they don't." - Please read carefully. You will find that it barely makes any sense. If you think it does, please explain/
i think respect has to be earned no matter what age the person is... but initially i give everyone equal respect... they have to work on retaining it or increasing it... thts the way i work..
<============= in his own little world with the own little people with the own little lives...
btw dhruva i agree with Pk on this one
"You can't expect everyone to think the way you do and not respect them just because they don't."
Dhruva that makes perfect sense (nice, pk) Respect can not be given based on opinion. Thats just stupid. Its like not respecting someone coz you like chocolate and they don't. Respecting someone doesnt mean you have to agree with everything they think. It just means that you will be open to anything they have to say, and consider it.
I'm with ninju and pk on this one :)
pk...nice...
now does it make sense to you?
thanx for all the support guys!
that'll cost you $3 for phrase mongering!!..hehehe kidding....
OK, thanks for all the advice. But I'm still of the opinion that people can respect or not respect people based on what they feel.It can even be based on opinion. My point was that : If a person is respectable in society & has achieved a lot, and if he still has stoopid notions in his head, then he doesn't deserve even a bit of the respect he has. I don't care what you think the meaning of respect is. I don't respect him. It's as simple as that. If you want to respect stupidity, you can. If you respect anti-secular people, you're the ones who will suffer. You'll slowly start falling prey to their policies. It's as simple as that.
And again, thank you aunties & uncles(especially aunty aditi & aunty pk). I know you think I'm stuck up with this shit. And taht I am obsessed with being rebellious & not respecting "respectable" people. Well, you're right. I hate any soul who sits on a teacher's desk & expects respect to come. Without having to do anything. And it's even worse when they actually do get that respect. I think this discussion should end here cuz I don't give a shit what people are to other people, and how respected they are. I respect whoever I feel deserves it.
:'(...what about niranjan UNCLE!! heheheh you'r right the discussion shall stopeth now
hey dhruva,
You are corrrrect in your own way. We only differ because i believe in giving every person a benefit of doubt and you don't. If you don't repect him then its up to you. I don't know if i repect this teacher of urs or dont 'cuz i dnt knw him. And when it comes to these ideas, i believe he's wrong. Thats it.
Also, like I said age has nothing to do with this. I respect and admire your way of living. THAT has ntn to do with age since ur younger than me. Dnt mix accept and respect.
And your welcome dadaji.
:D
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